Former Big Brother Naija winner Phyna has shared a heartfelt reflection on her evolving views about marriage and societal expectations for women in their 30s, revealing how her perspective has shifted as she approaches her 30th birthday. In a candid video, the reality star opened up about her younger self’s judgmental attitude toward unmarried women, particularly her aunts, whom she once believed had problems simply because they were not married by their early 30s. Phyna acknowledged that she used to question their life choices, thinking their single status was a sign of personal or social failure. Now, she sees things differently and regrets those past assumptions.
Phyna recalled that when she was in her early 20s, the idea of turning 29 felt distant and abstract. But as she reached that milestone, she began to reflect on her own life and the pressures women face regarding marriage. “I’m just thinking out loud. I remember when I was 22, 23 then, you know, 29 was so far away, but now this is 29 and everything is just dawning on me,” she said in the video. The realization came with a sense of maturity and self-awareness, prompting her to reevaluate her earlier judgments.
She admitted that she used to ask her aunts, “Auntie, you no go marry? Auntie, you no marry?” as if their unmarried status was a problem. “Like then it was looking like the auntie get problem,” she confessed. But now, she understands that being single does not equate to having issues. “Guys. Guys. We sef don dey touch am o. Auntie no get problem. I swear. Our aunties, they did have problem. No single problem,” she emphasized, urging others to stop making assumptions about women based on their marital status.
Phyna’s honesty resonated with many viewers, sparking a range of reactions on social media. Some praised her for her growth and self-awareness, while others offered playful or critical comments. One user, @MayGist, encouraged her to “go on flexing” and said she would “buy herself a husband” when the time came. Another, @GistRadar, joked that her transformation happened “within a blink of an eye,” while @Dr Jay offered a more serious note, suggesting she might be avoiding confronting her own relationship challenges. Meanwhile, @saint 𓂀 predicted Phyna would still be “thinking say na cruise” even at 50, referencing her friendship with fellow artist Cuppy.
As Phyna continues to navigate her personal journey, her openness about societal pressures and self-reflection serves as a reminder that growth often comes with age and experience. Her story highlights a broader cultural shift in how Nigerian women are beginning to redefine success, independence, and happiness beyond traditional markers like marriage.
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