Influencer Simisanya has urged singles in Nigeria to use the talking stage to ask practical, life-changing questions that reveal long-term compatibility before entering a serious relationship. Speaking on a recent episode of the Talk Your Talk podcast, she emphasized that early conversations should go beyond romance and focus on critical factors like genotype, cooking skills, generosity, social media behavior, and personality traits. Her advice comes as many Nigerians face heartbreak and relationship breakdowns due to unaddressed differences discovered too late. She believes open and honest discussions during the talking phase can prevent future disappointment and help couples determine if they are truly compatible before marriage becomes an option.
Simisanya highlighted genotype as one of the most important topics to discuss early. She explained that knowing whether a potential partner is AA, AS, or SS can prevent serious health complications for future children. “You get some things people can take. People should ask, ‘Are you AS or SS? Are you AA?’ So that if we actually date and later decide we want to marry, we won’t start running around when we discover we’re not compatible,” she said. This practical approach reflects a growing awareness among young Nigerians about the importance of genetic compatibility in relationships.
She also encouraged singles to talk about everyday habits that could affect their future together. For instance, she suggested asking whether a partner enjoys fresh food or has cooking skills, especially if one party is not inclined to cook. “Those are talking-stage questions. Ask, ‘Do you like fresh food?’ Because I don’t know how to cook, so we might not be compatible,” she shared. This focus on domestic expectations helps avoid misunderstandings later in the relationship.
Simisanya also stressed the importance of evaluating a partner’s online behavior. She advised singles to observe whether their potential partner engages in online fights, trolling, or insults, especially toward women. “Do you always go and fight on Twitter? Do you b£at girls? Are you a banga boy? Are you always on Instagram commenting and fighting? Are you a troll?” she asked. She believes a person’s digital footprint often reveals their true character and emotional maturity.
She further encouraged people to assess whether a potential partner is naturally generous or stingy. “Do you normally insult girls that ask questions like, ‘What do you bring to the table?’ Are you stingy? Are you generous? Those are very important questions,” she said. These questions, she argued, help determine if two people share similar values and can coexist peacefully in a long-term relationship.
By addressing these issues early, Simisanya believes couples can build stronger, more informed relationships. Her advice resonates with many Nigerians who are increasingly prioritizing compatibility over fleeting romance. As more people adopt this thoughtful approach, the hope is that relationships in Nigeria will become more sustainable and less prone to unnecessary heartbreak.
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