Banky W, the Nollywood actor turned politician, has openly stated that his wife, actress Adesua Etomi-Wellington, does not cook at home, sparking conversations about gender roles and domestic responsibilities in modern Nigerian marriages. The revelation came during his appearance on The Teju Babyface Show, where he addressed a viral video of himself preparing sausages, eggs, and bacon, which had drawn mixed reactions online. Banky W emphasized that cooking is a personal choice and not a gender obligation, saying he enjoys being in the kitchen while his wife, who is capable of cooking, simply does not have the interest.
He explained that the division of household duties in his marriage is based on mutual comfort and preference, not societal expectations. “There are some men, my wife must cook for me,” he said. “My wife does not really cook, which she can cook very well, but it’s not her thing.” He added that he finds joy in cooking and eating, and since Adesua also loves good food, the arrangement works naturally for their family. He acknowledged that some people might feel uncomfortable seeing a man cook, but he believes that what works for one couple may not suit another.
Banky W stressed the importance of understanding individual dynamics in marriage, urging people not to judge others based on their own standards. “Don’t live your life by somebody else’s expectations or rules,” he said. He further explained that his willingness to take on cooking duties stems from the deep respect and gratitude he holds for his wife’s sacrifices. He recalled the emotional and physical toll Adesua endured during their journey to parenthood, including multiple IVF cycles, which strengthened his commitment to serving her in any way possible.
“During our struggle to have Hezekiah, I’ve seen her endure things that would break people,” he said. “I’ve seen her inject herself with medications after each failed cycle and still get back on her feet. So is it now that I say cooking is hard? It’s easy to give those acts of service when you have a wife like this.” His words reflect a deep appreciation for partnership and shared effort, rather than traditional gender roles.
The conversation highlights shifting attitudes in Nigerian households, where men are increasingly taking on domestic responsibilities. Banky W’s openness about his role in the kitchen may inspire more couples to redefine household roles based on personal preference and mutual respect. As societal norms continue to evolve, his perspective offers a fresh, realistic model for modern Nigerian marriages.
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